so today in a conversation i found myself comparing a job change to domestic violence.
she knows it’s not helping the situation by staying.
she knows it’s not healthy.
she knows it’s not where she should be.
she knows that she should want more for herself.
she knows that’s she’s living a lie, when she smiles and says that things are fine.
but it all she knows.
she may not be comfortable, but she is familiar.
where else would she go?
what else would she do?
who else could she be?
how can she possibly start over at this point?
i find myself noticing this in more than just a job change, but in many areas of change. schools, friends, churches, towns, neighborhoods, families. the list could go on and on. the question is why do we hesitate? some will answer that they just need more time to think it through or to pray about it. others will answers in a manner of logistics- timing is wrong, economy is bad. others are in simple denial.
we have always been warned not to get too comfortable. when we do we lose our sense of desire, drive, determination, passion. it’s my opinion that being too familiar is just as detrimental to one’s soul. to one’s spirit.
we have always been told that when one ceases to grow, they die. can one really continue to grow in an all too familiar surrounding? or is it a must that they uproot, replant. in new ground.
we’ve also been told “it ain’t gonna be easy”.
Familiarity can be a powerful drug, for sure. I have absolutely been there. My preferred method has always been to let the discontent grow to the point that it becomes the high-octane rocket fuel that help me achieve escape velocity, so to speak.
Aside from that, this is one of the sharpest, most personal pieces of yours that I have read, Michele. Good stuff!
Many people refuse to change because of the fear associated with the possibility of failure or maybe of the unknown. I am not sure that we can’t remian in familiar surrounding while still growing and changing, but when we find ourselves in situations that stiffle growth or even cause us to regress then these are the things from which we should escape. Many times people find themselves so “stuck” that they refuse to branch out or change. I have even found others will judge or critisize others for actually seeking after passion or change. Don’t change for the sake of change. Instead seek change when you know the spirit is moving you into new places, even unknown places. Don’t be afraid to step out in faith that you are a child of the most High GOd and because of that, God wants the best for you. The best being the place that uses what he has given you and using the passion he has placed in your heart. Don’t settle for less than He would want for you. I love you and want to support you in every way I can.
I felt as though you wrote the situation in my life. Although i dont have a job, i find that i have those same desires for my home life. Change. But yes, i am afraid of it. I am afraid of the unknown. Starting over. Afraid of failing. So i stay in the same situation. All because its what i do know.